Made To Be Loved

“My children were made to be loved.” — God ambushed me one night with these words.

I was brushing my hair before bed, not thinking of anything much (well… I was thinking about how much I was looking forward to snuggle in my soft, cozy bed after a hard day’s work and watch Gilmore Girls with Alex), when God broke in and interrupted my train of thought (as He tends to do).

We were created in God’s image, to be just like Him. And God has always lived being fully loved – the Trinity is the perfect circle of love to each other.

This means that we were created to live being fully loved, too.

 

We were intended for love.

Made for it.

Hardwired to give and receive love.

Love is the essence of who God is, and it is also the core essence of who we are.

We were created to be fully accepted – by God, by others, and by ourselves (hands up those who find this last one the hardest!). We were also created to fully accept others.

But life doesn’t always tell us that, does it? In fact, life sometimes seems hell-bent on telling us just the opposite. We were not born into a perfect world. We came into the world with pure eyes, seeing life and people as they should be instead of how they were… but had to learn pretty quickly that things weren’t as they should be.

The way that others treated us showed us that we weren’t worthy of love and belonging. We learned that we had to earn it, work hard for it. And when we had it, we discovered that we had to work hard not to lose it.

And then there was our own heart. In there, we found a propensity to reject and treat others with everything other than love and kindness. It was so easy, and came so naturally, to be rude, mean, selfish.

It may have distressed us at first to discover so many not-as-it-should-be‘s in the world, but soon enough we taught ourselves to adapt. We adjusted our hearts to expect less than perfect love – for ourselves and for others. And we slowly became OK with the way things were. Finding small joys and new escapes, like exploring entertainment through ufabet เว็บตรง, can make adapting a little easier and life a bit more enjoyable.

We built an armor to protect our mushy insides from getting hurt. But in that armor – safe, resilient, protected – our soul became our prisoner.

We kept our souls protected by hobbies and luxuries and attention, carefully locking it up with our fear and selfishness. We thought we were safer that way. But in that armor, safe, dark, motionless, airless, we stopped hoping, dreaming, caring, loving. We stopped living.

And this is why God ambushed me with those words, “My children were made to be loved.”  He wants to be the hero who storms the castle prison, slays the dragon, and rescues the Princess.

You are that Princess, and He wants to set your soul free from that dark castle so that it can breathe again. He wants you to flourish, thrive, and blossom in the warm sunlight of love.

What the Lord showed me was a glimpse into the Cross.

I saw the agony of Jesus’ suffering, and then He told me, “The pain of His suffering wasn’t physical.”

I spoke back (rather impatiently, I’m ashamed to say),“I know.. His pain was spiritual. It was His separation from You that caused Him the most pain. He was rejected by You so that we could all be accepted.”

His gentle, loving rebuke blew me away —

“Yes, you are right. But do you know what happens when a human heart is away from My presence?

That heart slowly dies because it is apart from the Source of Love. The human heart was not made to function without love, and it cannot survive without it.

On the cross, Jesus took every single curse and sting of rejection that every human being from the beginning to end of time would be subjected to, all condensed into those few hours. It was a deeply emotional pain, and His heart was breaking.

But He did it so that no human being would ever again have to live for one moment under curses and rejection. He did it so that every person could have access to a life lived in the fullness of love, because human beings were made to be loved.

My children, including you my daughter, think that a life of love is a luxury. A possibility rather than mandatory. A practice rather than an intrinsic reality. A way of life rather than the core of being.

You were made to be loved. And there is no other way that you can live. There is no other way of living. Remember that.”

Let’s remind ourselves and each other daily that there is no other way to live. I was made to be loved, and so were you.

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Godly Wives: The Perfect Husband (By Sinchana Anthony)

A guest post. Godly Wives is a space where women talk candidly and honestly about real issues in marriage.

I have been married for 19 years, and have a wonderful husband who is a pastor and who loves me very much.

But I am not satisfied. I often find that I need more of him and from him… which he cannot give. Because of that I cry, feel lonely, deserted. There are times that I feel I don’t have anyone in this world. I feel there is no one that I can say truly belongs to me.

The place of a husband is very special in every woman’s life, and the word “Husband” evokes many feelings in most women – excitement, disappointment, to name a few. Do you know why Husband is so important to both the married and unmarried (the married feel like they need more from their husbands, and the unmarried long to be married)? It is because we were made to be loved by God who is our husband.

He is the perfect one. The one we all, on some subconscious level, are looking for. There is no other husband like Him.

That is the reason sometimes us wives try so hard to change our husbands.

Like in John 4:18, the Samaritan woman had 5 husbands – she was so tired of husbands that the 6th man she lived with was not her husband, she was just living with him. Oh! What a pity. Many times we think what we are doing is right, and we end up living in misery.

She was in such misery. She was deserted by people such that she only came to draw water from the well when no one was around, at the hottest time of the day. Where were the men who had lived with her?

She had to struggle even to meet her basic need, and that is the case with many of us.

She was willing bear the heat in the desert rather than bear with the scorn of the people… but you can never escape from people. No, there came a 7th man called Jesus.

Jesus was on His way to Galilee but had to go through Samaria. Some of us, like the woman, are somehow stuck in Samaria. But remember that Jesus is on the way to Galilee, and He is coming near to you.

Do you feel like you are thirsty, longing for something that life and your husband cannot give to you? For that, you need the living water that is nothing else but the Holy Spirit. When God gives you Holy Spirit, that is all that you’ll ever need. It will never run out, but will continually increase in your life.

“Come, all you who are thirsty, come to the waters.” (Isaiah 55:1)

My people have committed two sins: They have forsaken me, the spring of living water, and have dug their own cisterns, broken cisterns that cannot hold water.” (Jeremiah 2:13)

We want our husbands to be able to understand our hearts and read our minds, but remember that that is not in their capacity. Only God can do that.

“I am the one who searches your heart, and examines your mind.” (Jeremiah 17:10)

May we come to One who calls us “Beloved”. He knows what exactly we need.

“I will not hide from you, with everlasting compassion, I will show my kindness to you.” (Isaiah 54:8)

All the money, power, position, husband or no husband, cannot fetch you real joy and satisfaction. Only He who calls Himself our Husband can.

 “Do not be afraid; you will not suffer shame. Do not fear disgrace; you will not be humiliated.   You will forget the shame of your youth and remember no more the reproach of your widowhood. For your maker is your husband, the Lord Almighty is His name.” (Isaiah 54)

God says, “I am God Almighty, yet I am your husband in mighty arms.” Full of love, He holds you so tight and says, ‘I belong to you.”

Wow! What else do we need? We believe whom we should not and we worship whom we should not. We fetch water from the broken cisterns. Jesus says,  “Now the time has come; come to Me the way you are.” Throw yourself at the feet of Jesus. He will not humiliate you, He will never put you to shame. He will lift you up and He will wash you, restore you, and make you whole. That’s what he did to this woman, changing her completely until she began to change the life of others.

He will do this for you and me. He will restore you so that you can walk with your head held high, all your past shame forgotten. Just like the woman at the well. Amen.

 

 

Sinchana Anthony is the wife of Pastor Shyam Anthony and is the Director of Felicia Kids Home. She also pastors City Church under the leadership of her husband. She met Jesus Christ as her personal savior when she was 15 years old, and the love of Christ changed her life completely.

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The Glorification of Messiness (and what Grace really means)

“Celebrate the process.”

“Enjoy the journey.”

“It’s not about getting it perfect. It’s about being present, where you are, as you are.”

“It’s ok to fail. Guilt doesn’t come from God.”

It seems that, recently, the favorite tune for many bloggers/instagrammers/internetters to sing is this: Embrace the Mess.

And I love this message.

It warms my heart to know that it is not all about being perfect, getting it just right. I love the idea that the people in our lives are more important than a perfectly-checked to-do list at the end of the day.

It is so encouraging, and important, for a type-A perfectionist like me to hear this message of Grace over and over again – God loves you because you are human, not in spite of it.

I love this message, and I also preach it (more to myself than anyone else).

But here’s where the conversation gets a little dicey: I don’t think we have done well in representing the message of Grace in its entirety.

Yes, we are human and we make mistakes. Yes, God loves us & accepts us just the way we are. He knew every sin we would ever commit and chose to send Jesus to die for us anyway. Yes, we need His mercy that flows so freely.

But Grace doesn’t just leave us there. It doesn’t leave us just as we are, because Love always seeks the best for the one it loves. Grace is so much more than a warm, adoring, doting father who blindly excuses his child of any/every wrong. That isn’t Grace, it’s mollycoddling. And mollycoddled children grow into over-indulged, self-centred, character-deficient adults. Grace that would leave us in such an awful state can’t really be Grace, can it?

So can we start a conversation, talk a little bit about what Grace really is?

I believe that Grace looks like this:

  1. God so loved the world that He sent Jesus. To be a model for all mankind of what it looks like to be fully human. Fully man. Grace broke into our mundane, mediocre lives and showed us that there could be so much more. He was the second Adam, and He showed us how God intended for man to live. He showed us what we could be and gave us a dream to live for.
  2. Jesus died for us so that the power of death and sin over us would be forever broken. Grace didn’t just show us what we could be, but made a way for us to get there.
  3. Holy Spirit came to be with man with His power. The obstacles were removed, and His power came, so that man was empowered to once more be fully man… as God intended in the Garden of Eden.

Grace tells us that we are loved unconditionally, accepted us as we are, mistakes and all.

Grace shows us the greatness of who we could be, that we are not defined by our sins or weaknesses because God created each one of us for greatness.

Grace empowers us to be able to reach the fullness of all that God has for us.

Grace is God’s bestowed ability to do what His truth demands. It is God’s divine empowerment in our lives. Grace enables us to be better… it empowers us to be the best version of who God created us to be.

We have gotten really good at the celebration of the process. We embrace our mess, having learned to love ourselves for who we are. The message of self-acceptance and self-love all across the world is as ubiquitous as water – because the world both needs it and wants it.

But may I submit to you that without the true message of Grace – the empowerment to positive change/growth – self-acceptance isn’t really self-acceptance at all. It just becomes a glorified, euphemistic cover up for self-centeredness that is lazy and spurns responsibility and consequences.

When we paint only half a picture and tell our followers that that is the full truth, we shrink God to the size of our self-made boxes and we reduce their expectations for what God can do… and that’s dangerous.

So here’s to celebration of the process. Celebration of our humanity. And most of all, celebration that God’s grace – His power – has made it possible for us to be truly human… the kind of human that Adam was meant to be, and the kind of human that Jesus showed the world we could be.

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Idream of Eden. We were made for the Garden and the full pleasure of paradise. We got separated at Eden and we spend our whole lives searching for a way back into that secret paradise. All of life's pursuit + pain + questioning can be traced back to man's search for home. Our deepest instincts tell us that we are not home outside of this reality, and our souls will never stop searching until we return. Only there will we find rest and our true being. There, we begin to dream again the dreams that have laid asleep in our hearts all along.

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