Godly Wives: The Perfect Husband (By Sinchana Anthony)

A guest post. Godly Wives is a space where women talk candidly and honestly about real issues in marriage.

I have been married for 19 years, and have a wonderful husband who is a pastor and who loves me very much.

But I am not satisfied. I often find that I need more of him and from him… which he cannot give. Because of that I cry, feel lonely, deserted. There are times that I feel I don’t have anyone in this world. I feel there is no one that I can say truly belongs to me.

The place of a husband is very special in every woman’s life, and the word “Husband” evokes many feelings in most women – excitement, disappointment, to name a few. Do you know why Husband is so important to both the married and unmarried (the married feel like they need more from their husbands, and the unmarried long to be married)? It is because we were made to be loved by God who is our husband.

He is the perfect one. The one we all, on some subconscious level, are looking for. There is no other husband like Him.

That is the reason sometimes us wives try so hard to change our husbands.

Like in John 4:18, the Samaritan woman had 5 husbands – she was so tired of husbands that the 6th man she lived with was not her husband, she was just living with him. Oh! What a pity. Many times we think what we are doing is right, and we end up living in misery.

She was in such misery. She was deserted by people such that she only came to draw water from the well when no one was around, at the hottest time of the day. Where were the men who had lived with her?

She had to struggle even to meet her basic need, and that is the case with many of us.

She was willing bear the heat in the desert rather than bear with the scorn of the people… but you can never escape from people. No, there came a 7th man called Jesus.

Jesus was on His way to Galilee but had to go through Samaria. Some of us, like the woman, are somehow stuck in Samaria. But remember that Jesus is on the way to Galilee, and He is coming near to you.

Do you feel like you are thirsty, longing for something that life and your husband cannot give to you? For that, you need the living water that is nothing else but the Holy Spirit. When God gives you Holy Spirit, that is all that you’ll ever need. It will never run out, but will continually increase in your life.

“Come, all you who are thirsty, come to the waters.” (Isaiah 55:1)

“My people have committed two sins: They have forsaken me, the spring of living water, and have dug their own cisterns, broken cisterns that cannot hold water.” (Jeremiah 2:13)

We want our husbands to be able to understand our hearts and read our minds, but remember that that is not in their capacity. Only God can do that.

“I am the one who searches your heart, and examines your mind.” (Jeremiah 17:10)

May we come to One who calls us “Beloved”. He knows what exactly we need.

“I will not hide from you, with everlasting compassion, I will show my kindness to you.” (Isaiah 54:8)

All the money, power, position, husband or no husband, cannot fetch you real joy and satisfaction. Only He who calls Himself our Husband can.

 “Do not be afraid; you will not suffer shame. Do not fear disgrace; you will not be humiliated.   You will forget the shame of your youth and remember no more the reproach of your widowhood. For your maker is your husband, the Lord Almighty is His name.” (Isaiah 54)

God says, “I am God Almighty, yet I am your husband in mighty arms.” Full of love, He holds you so tight and says, ‘I belong to you.”

Wow! What else do we need? We believe whom we should not and we worship whom we should not. We fetch water from the broken cisterns. Jesus says,  “Now the time has come; come to Me the way you are.” Throw yourself at the feet of Jesus. He will not humiliate you, He will never put you to shame. He will lift you up and He will wash you, restore you, and make you whole. That’s what he did to this woman, changing her completely until she began to change the life of others.

He will do this for you and me. He will restore you so that you can walk with your head held high, all your past shame forgotten. Just like the woman at the well. Amen.

Sinchana Anthony is the wife of Pastor Shyam Anthony and is the Director of Felicia Kids Home. She also pastors City Church under the leadership of her husband. She met Jesus Christ as her personal savior when she was 15 years old, and the love of Christ changed her life completely.