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Made To Be Loved

“My children were made to be loved.” — God ambushed me one night with these words.

I was brushing my hair before bed, not thinking of anything much (well… I was thinking about how much I was looking forward to snuggle in my soft, cozy bed after a hard day’s work and watch Gilmore Girls with Alex), when God broke in and interrupted my train of thought (as He tends to do).

We were created in God’s image, to be just like Him. And God has always lived being fully loved – the Trinity is the perfect circle of love to each other.

This means that we were created to live being fully loved, too.


We were intended for love.

Made for it.

Hardwired to give and receive love.

Love is the essence of who God is, and it is also the core essence of who we are.

We were created to be fully accepted – by God, by others, and by ourselves (hands up those who find this last one the hardest!). We were also created to fully accept others.


But life doesn’t always tell us that, does it? In fact, life sometimes seems hell-bent on telling us just the opposite. We were not born into a perfect world. We came into the world with pure eyes, seeing life and people as they should be instead of how they were… but had to learn pretty quickly that things weren’t as they should be.

The way that others treated us showed us that we weren’t worthy of love and belonging. We learned that we had to earn it, work hard for it. And when we had it, we discovered that we had to work hard not to lose it.

And then there was our own heart. In there, we found a propensity to reject and treat others with everything other than love and kindness. It was so easy, and came so naturally, to be rude, mean, selfish.

It may have distressed us at first to discover so many not-as-it-should-be‘s in the world, but soon enough we taught ourselves to adapt. We adjusted our hearts to expect less than perfect love – for ourselves and for others. And we slowly became OK with the way things were.

We built an armor to protect our mushy insides from getting hurt. But in that armor – safe, resilient, protected – our soul became our prisoner.

We kept our souls protected by hobbies and luxuries and attention, carefully locking it up with our fear and selfishness. We thought we were safer that way. But in that armor, safe, dark, motionless, airless, we stopped hoping, dreaming, caring, loving. We stopped living.

And this is why God ambushed me with those words, “My children were made to be loved.”ย  He wants to be the hero who storms the castle prison, slays the dragon, and rescues the Princess.

You are that Princess, and He wants to set your soul free from that dark castle so that it can breathe again. He wants you to flourish, thrive, and blossom in the warm sunlight of love.

What the Lord showed me was a glimpse into the Cross.

I saw the agony of Jesus’ suffering, and then He told me, “The pain of His suffering wasn’t physical.”

I spoke back (rather impatiently, I’m ashamed to say),“I know.. His pain was spiritual. It was His separation from You that caused Him the most pain. He was rejected by You so that we could all be accepted.”

His gentle, loving rebuke blew me away —

“Yes, you are right. But do you know what happens when a human heart is away from My presence?

That heart slowly dies because it is apart from the Source of Love. The human heart was not made to function without love, and it cannot survive without it.

On the cross, Jesus took every single curse and sting of rejection that every human being from the beginning to end of time would be subjected to, all condensed into those few hours. It was a deeply emotional pain, and His heart was breaking.

But He did it so that no human being would ever again have to live for one moment under curses and rejection. He did it so that every person could have access to a life lived in the fullness of love, because human beings were made to be loved.

My children, including you my daughter, think that a life of love is a luxury. A possibility rather than mandatory. A practice rather than an intrinsic reality. A way of life rather than the core of being.

You were made to be loved. And there is no other way that you can live. There is no other way of living. Remember that.”

Let’s remind ourselves and each other daily that there is no other way to live. I was made to be loved, and so were you.

  • Erica@RaisingMunchiesNovember 12, 2014 - 2:52 pm

    This is beautiful. I think we can all relate to the hardening that happens from hanging out in the world on our own. It is easy to become guarded, closed off, and unloving towards others. It is so awesome how God takes the time to give us these revelations of Him and of ourselves. It really shows how much we really need Him.ReplyCancel

  • Heather@40YearWandererNovember 12, 2014 - 9:22 pm

    Beautiful! If only we could always remember to listen to our soul connection to Jesus rather than what the world tells us.

    I tell people… Be loved, Beloved.

    Thank you, Samantha!ReplyCancel

  • Hannah DianeNovember 12, 2014 - 9:37 pm

    Such a lovely post, thank you!!ReplyCancel

  • RamonaNovember 12, 2014 - 9:41 pm

    Lovely post, and I LOVE the cup photo!! <3ReplyCancel

  • Debbie (MAD Hippies)November 12, 2014 - 10:38 pm

    I loved the watching Gilmore Girls in bed comment. My husband and I have done that for years, we both love that show. I have a thought on not loving yourself, I wrote about this myself, well sort of, and the tendency to lose your yourself or identity when you stop seeing yourself as valuable.ReplyCancel

  • Danielle KNovember 12, 2014 - 11:35 pm

    Lovely post and something we can all related to. Great read for today ๐Ÿ™‚ReplyCancel

  • KayleeNovember 12, 2014 - 11:38 pm

    What a lovely post and reminder. So many times I’m quick to judge instead of quick to love in this world. Jesus died for me as well as him/her why should I not love them accordingly.ReplyCancel

  • Amanda {Planning It All}November 13, 2014 - 1:34 am

    What a lovely and inspiring post! Thank you for sharing!ReplyCancel

  • CarolineNovember 13, 2014 - 3:19 am

    This is such a nice post about Love. Love is really important in my life and that’s is exactly what I’m trying to show and teach my kids.ReplyCancel

  • Nikki @ MBAsahmNovember 13, 2014 - 3:22 am

    What a beautiful post! It’s so easy to forget sometimes how loved we really are ๐Ÿ™‚ Thanks so much for the reminder! <3ReplyCancel

  • EmilyNovember 13, 2014 - 4:24 am

    This is beautiful, Samantha. Thanks for sharing!ReplyCancel

  • Cynthia @ The Log Home KitchenNovember 13, 2014 - 4:43 am

    A simple and profound reminder to all. Thank you.ReplyCancel

  • AnneNovember 13, 2014 - 5:16 am

    What a beautifully written post…thank you for sharing!ReplyCancel

  • TiffanyNovember 13, 2014 - 6:18 am

    This is a beautiful and well written post. Thank you!ReplyCancel

  • Feed Me DearlyNovember 13, 2014 - 6:25 am

    Such a lovely post – thanks so much for sharing!
    Happy Wednesday! ๐Ÿ™‚ReplyCancel

  • KellyNovember 13, 2014 - 6:31 am

    Such a lovely post, best wishesReplyCancel

  • Jennifer PritchardNovember 13, 2014 - 6:37 am

    Beautiful post, flowers, and ring :)Love everything about this thanks!ReplyCancel

  • LauraNovember 13, 2014 - 7:56 am

    I really love this post, Samantha! I can think back on some times in my life when others said or did things that made me feel like I did not deserve love. Although I know this not to be true, it can be difficult to wrap my brain around why these things happen. Of course there is always a lesson to be learned…and I guess the good lessons are never learned easily. Thanks for such an inspirational post.ReplyCancel

  • Jody ThomaeNovember 13, 2014 - 8:02 am

    Such truth here. We are designed to be loved and only God in Christ can love us perfectly as we were created to be.
    Thank you for these BEaUtiful words and thoughts.
    May God bless you, JodyReplyCancel

  • Tara JoyNovember 13, 2014 - 9:04 am

    I really needed to read this today. So many points that touched my heart, including the fact that when we are separate from God we are apart from the Source of Love. I have so long wondered how I could ever love and truly love like God, and am disappointed in myself when I fail all of the time. BUT If I spend more time in Gods word and with God he will be my source of Love, I don’t need to search for it myself!ReplyCancel

  • Katie WassinkNovember 13, 2014 - 9:19 am

    God IS love! Yes! Beautiful post, thank you for rejoicing in His love and grace publically!ReplyCancel

  • NatalieNovember 13, 2014 - 9:53 am

    What a perfect reminder at this time of year. I get so caught up in my daily life that I often forget what it’s all about. You’re so right – we were here to love and to be loved. I hope I never forget that!ReplyCancel

  • Amber @ Beautiful RubbishNovember 13, 2014 - 10:01 am

    Yes. May we learn to open ourselves to this Love, to live in and breathe in it, to freely give it away. Thank you for sharing this with us at Unforced Rhythms.ReplyCancel

  • Mary CollinsNovember 13, 2014 - 10:13 am

    Amen. We are certainly meant to be loved and to love. Although living in an imperfect world with imperfect people love sometimes is difficult. But our lives are all the richer when we let love in. Thanks for the reminder.ReplyCancel

  • April BoyerNovember 13, 2014 - 10:43 am

    I love the idea, and the truth; that we and our children are made to be loved! This really touched me, and I am likely to remember it for awhile (though I knew it in my heart of hearts!). I love your writing style as well!

  • KendraNovember 13, 2014 - 1:44 pm

    This is an amazing thing to mediate upon. We’re made to be loved. I will carry this thought with me. We do sell ourselves short even by accepting this even with agape love.ReplyCancel

  • Kim @ This Ole MomNovember 13, 2014 - 2:41 pm

    This is such a lovely post !Very well written thank you for sharing. And, I wanted to tell you I love your blog it’s very lovely!ReplyCancel

  • SusieNovember 13, 2014 - 8:35 pm

    This is great! Thanks so much!ReplyCancel

  • andreaNovember 13, 2014 - 8:53 pm

    What a sweet post. So glad I found your blog!ReplyCancel

  • KimNovember 13, 2014 - 9:16 pm

    Thanks so much for this much need reminder. Love your blog!ReplyCancel

  • Hannah DianeNovember 13, 2014 - 9:30 pm

    Such a sweet post!!ReplyCancel

  • RebeccaNovember 13, 2014 - 10:20 pm

    I love this quote. To me it is the essence of faith and Jesus’ message:

    “Love is the essence of who God is, and it is also the core essence of who we are.”ReplyCancel

  • JoniNovember 13, 2014 - 10:50 pm

    Beautiful post. Life truly is about loving and being loved. Thank you for the reminder!ReplyCancel

  • FarrahNovember 13, 2014 - 10:51 pm

    This is such a beautiful post. :] Definitely nice to have that reminder!ReplyCancel

  • KalynNovember 13, 2014 - 11:13 pm

    Thank you so much for the encouraging post! Great to be reminded of God’s love for us, this morning! ๐Ÿ™‚ReplyCancel

  • sierraNovember 14, 2014 - 1:12 am

    Your post are always so inspirational and beautiful. Thank you for them!ReplyCancel

  • LauraNovember 14, 2014 - 1:15 am

    Great things to think about, especially this time of year. Thanks ๐Ÿ™‚ReplyCancel

  • ShannonNovember 14, 2014 - 1:23 am

    What fantastic words of affirmation. God is good!ReplyCancel

  • jennyNovember 14, 2014 - 3:19 am

    Beautiful picturesReplyCancel

  • PattiNovember 14, 2014 - 3:26 am

    Such beautiful thoughts and eloquent writing. Nice post.ReplyCancel

  • SarahNovember 14, 2014 - 3:35 am

    There can never be enough love.ReplyCancel

  • MichelleNovember 14, 2014 - 4:05 am

    I don’t think we can ever hear how much God loves us too many times! Thank you!ReplyCancel

  • ClaireNovember 14, 2014 - 8:15 am

    Amen sister! Love is the most basic and instinctive of all human emotions!ReplyCancel

  • Elizabeth StewartNovember 14, 2014 - 11:07 am

    Yes! I am saying amen to this post. I’m happy to be here.ReplyCancel

  • AngelNovember 14, 2014 - 11:13 am

    What a beautiful reminder. Thank you so much for writing this post. Sharing! ๐Ÿ™‚ReplyCancel

  • laurenNovember 14, 2014 - 11:31 pm

    This is beautiful and great read. God is love. And some of us need this reminder. Thank youReplyCancel

  • AishaNovember 15, 2014 - 1:01 am

    This is a beautiful post. Jesus taught me on this exact post before and it overwhelms me to think about every bit of pain he went through for us to give us freedom and never ending grace. Great post. Thanks for sharing.ReplyCancel

  • Amy HagerupNovember 15, 2014 - 8:26 am

    Samantha, I am thinking deeply on these truths. I am reminded of God’s love for me every time that I see a bird. So He sends me birds at amazing times – to remind me of His love right when I need it. He is so precious to me.ReplyCancel

  • Bekki@a better way to homeschoolNovember 16, 2014 - 1:42 pm

    This is so beautiful, as so many have noted before me.
    It blows my mind that God would reach out from eternity to touch our souls so personally, so individually, so intimately. He loves us so much.ReplyCancel

  • Jody ThomaeNovember 17, 2014 - 4:33 am

    Hi Samantha!! I wanted to let you know I nominated you for the โ€œOne Lovely Blogger Awardโ€ ๐Ÿ™‚
    Hereโ€™s the post to the link:
    Thank you for inspiring me and so many others!!
    Blessings of ARTistry, CREATivity & BEaUty,

  • Anita OjedaNovember 18, 2014 - 12:03 am

    This is beautiful, true and very inspiring. Thank you for sharing it. It’s a truth that so many people struggle to believe. Keep pointing the way to Jesus, my friend!ReplyCancel

  • Elayna Fernandez ~ The Positive MOMNovember 18, 2014 - 2:38 am

    Love is truly the essence of the Gospel. Love Him, love one another, love yourself… the greatest commandments.ReplyCancel

  • Melanie PickettNovember 18, 2014 - 4:28 am

    What powerful words! Great writing and beautiful blog!


  • Megan WalkerNovember 18, 2014 - 8:03 am

    I love totally agree with you. All creatures were made to be loved in some way, but especially us. God made us in His own image after all, so we could experience love with Him.

    Thank you for sharing!ReplyCancel

  • JenaNovember 20, 2014 - 9:39 pm

    THIS IS AMAZING! I am featuring you today on our weekly link up – Let your light shine, thank you so much for coming by!ReplyCancel

  • AishaNovember 22, 2014 - 12:47 am

    Wow!! This post brought tears to my eyes. So beautifully written and so Spirit filled. Thank you for sharing your beautiful heart with us, sister!! Xoxo

  • Angie RygNovember 23, 2014 - 12:40 pm

    “You were made to be loved. And there is no other way that you can live. There is no other way of living.”

    Yes. Oh, to know this and fully live in this truth everyday! Thanks you for this inspiration and I am SO happy to connect with you! I look forward to more of your wisdom and God’s truth.ReplyCancel

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