Jesus Disappointed People

How do I respond to all the things?

How can I give to the people asking for my attention and still find time + energy to do the things I’m supposed to do?

How do I engage in life for just a few hours and not feel behind when I see the social media notifications, emails, text messages, missed calls?

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If you’re a business lady or a friend or a wife or a sister or the president, you’ve probably felt some of the above to some degree.

A huge part of growing + thriving is that our span of influence expands too, and that’s a really beautiful, godly thing.

But sometimes, that also brings these really fundamental questions into play that can make us feel insecure. We start addressing our ability to respond to things, and maybe we end up feeling defensive or judgmental or go full-on Stepford Wives in a bid to juggle it all.

So today I want to talk about FREEDOM.

Giving you + me the freedom to choose what gives life, to say “this just isn’t my top priority right now” and be completely secure in that.

When we think about how many days of our whole lives are aligned toward not disappointing people, most of us would answer “a whole lot”.

We have this secret system of measuring how successful we are based on how we’ve made others happy. We feel like we’re not doing a good job when they’re not happy + we feel like it’s been a good day when we’ve met or exceeded expectations.

But here’s the thing: Jesus, the perfect man, often disappointed people. I mean, He really let people down. 

There were so many times that people wanted His time + attention + miracles, but He pulled away. He didn’t always give them what they wanted and sometimes that upset a lot of people.

His ministry was really thriving and there were times that lots of hurting people needed Him, but He drew away. He let His mother + siblings down and they even questioned His sanity + deity. He disappointed the disciples when He wasn’t the political leader they’d hoped for. He frustrated people when He didn’t respond quickly enough with a miracle or a sign they were hoping for. He offended the religious leaders with His radical gospel.

Jesus disappointed people. But Jesus never sinned.

The motivations that governed Jesus’ decisions were so far removed from meeting the expectations of people — some of whom He really, really loved.

He knew that the fundamental question wasn’t whether He loved them, the question was how He loved them.

Jesus knew that we bless + help others best when we are most fully who God created us to be. And He lived it out every single day.

He didn’t love them by giving them what they wanted, He loved them by giving them what they needed. He didn’t love them by doing what they wanted, He loved them by doing what He was called to do. He loved them by completing His mission, all the way to the cross.

And if Jesus did it, could it be that we might disappoint people without sinning either?

I’m not saying that we’re never at fault when we disappoint people, because sometimes we are.

But sometimes? Sometimes we disappoint people because their expectations are not what God would have us do. Sometimes we disappoint people because we choose to obey God and it’s not the choice they wanted us to make. Sometimes we disappoint people because we’re about our Father’s Kingdom and not about this world.

Could we also take it one step further to say: Sometimes when we live in such a way as to not disappoint others, WE ARE SINNING.

Any time we are living toward the approval of men and not God, we’ve wandered off path. We’ve forgotten our mandate + purpose. We’ve made people our idol and their approval our master.

We are building houses on sand when we carefully construct our lives around the praise of man. It is a futile undertaking that we were never meant to shoulder, and it is a burden that will eventually wear us out.

Are there times when our obedience to God will result in the joy or approval of others? Yes. Definitely. It will always be a blessing to those whom God ordained it for.

But that shouldn’t be our goal. Our goal is to obey God, whether or not people understand or approve.

So here are some questions for you + me this season: Are we ok with disappointing people when we are faithfully obeying God? Do we need a little recalibration to where we get our affirmation/approval from? Do we need to change our belief system to know that there may be times when we’ve let others down but haven’t actually sinned at all? Is there some cutting-off that needs to be done in relationships that have reached a place of unhealthy co-dependency?

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A Simple Guide To Dream Interpretation

Many questions come in that I wish I had time to fully answer, and some of the most commonly asked questions are the ones about deciphering God’s language — what God is speaking to you through dreams, signs, the Bible. Today’s post is an excerpt from the Dream Journal we created to help women steward what the Spirit of God is doing in their lives. We wanted to share this bit of information with you in hopes that it will help you as you learn to hear + recognize His voice. This guide was written for our Dream Journal, but the principles will help you greatly in hearing from God in any way He might choose to speak to you. I pray for a deeper knowing of Him, and fresh encounters, in Jesus’ name. Amen.

HOW DO I START?

1. Expect God to speak. If you don’t believe that God speaks, or that He wants to, you will not hear when He does. Unbelief will brush it off as “just my imagination”. Praying daily, “Lord, I believe. Help me in my unbelief,” will help begin to open your heart to hear His voice.

2. Expect God to help you remember what He has given you. The dreams that are important will make a mark in your heart and memory. He will let you remember what He speaks to you. If you don’t remember what you dreamed, it most likely wasn’t from God and you don’t have to worry too much about it. If you feel like it was important, jot down what you remember and ask God to reveal the other details to you in His good time.

3. Record your dreams. Before you can understand your dreams, you must reflect on them. And before you can reflect on them you must be able to remember them. That is the purpose of having a dream journal. It makes it easy for you to record your dreams as soon as you wake up, even if it is the middle of the night. The longer it takes to record a dream, the less details you are likely to remember. If you are not in the habit of remembering or recording your dreams, be patient. It will probably take a little time to develop this ability.

4. Seek counsel. Share your dream with mature Christians you can trust, and write down what they think. You might start to find a pattern in their collective wisdom.

5. Study the Bible. Find out how biblical characters interpreted words and symbols in a dream context.

6. Use the dream interpretation guide. The list below is a compilation (non-exhaustive) of steps to accurate dream interpretation. They will help guide you as you begin to build your own library of dream language.

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DREAM INTERPRETATION GUIDE

1. Is this dream from God, or is it just a dream? Sometimes we get a dream, vision, or even a “prophetic word” that comes from the flesh, not the spirit. These are influenced by our desires, feelings, and thoughts. It is very important to be highly discerning in this area and make sure that we’ve surrendered every aspect of our lives to God (read about how to do that here and here), otherwise we run the risk of walking and leading others in deception. The first thing to do when you get a dream or any other prophetic experience, is to prayerfully check that it is not simply a response of your flesh. In this aspect, it is better to err on the side of caution — if you make a mistake and it does turn out to be from God, He will send word to let you know that He has a message for you.

2. Simplify. Reduce the dream to its simplest form. Going into too much detail at first might lead you to lose sight of the big picture, the main point of God’s message to you. Don’t miss the forest for the trees. Keep it simple, step back and look at the broad big-picture details first. Keep to its simplest form, and you can build on that later if necessary.

3. Define the context. When trying to define the meanings of symbols in your dream, keep in mind that the symbols in a dream must be interpreted within the context of the dream. You will not get an accurate dream interpretation by defining a dream by its symbols. Symbols are defined by the dream. If you try to do it in reverse, you will end up with confusion and frustration. Please understand that hard and fast rules for symbols do not work. Symbols will be as varied as each person dreaming a dream. A symbol of a dog to a dog-lover would not be the same as the symbol of a dog to a person who was ferociously attacked. Therefore, look at the dream and think, “What does this symbol mean to me? How does it fit within this dream?”

4. Identify God’s repetitive language. A series of dreams in one night or over a consecutive period of time is usually just a varied representation of the same message. It is important to realize that repetitive dreams relate to the same message, or you will end up looking at them as isolated dreams, thereby risking misinterpretation of all of them. If the message is repeated over and over, it is good to take time to seek God about it. Is there any area in your heart that He’s trying to speak to that you’re just not hearing? He could be trying to get through to you.

5. Use basic analysis. All dreams should be interpreted on a personal basis before we can use it as a message to others. God always speaks in terms/analogies that are familiar to you, just as Jesus spoke in parables relevant to the times and people He lived with.

Some questions to ask:

  • What does this person/object/place mean to me? What is their significance to me, personally?
  • How did I feel in the dream? What was my primary emotion immediately after waking up from the dream?
  • Is this dream also meant for someone else? If so, am I supposed to speak or intercede? If I am to speak, should I do it now or later?

6. Ask Holy Spirit. He is the source of wisdom and revelation. He is the Counselor. Ask Him to reveal the main message of the dream. He might want you to search out the details, or work it out in your life over time, but He will always reveal the big-picture message to help guide you. Ask Him for the main thought, then keep the main thought the main thought as you delve into the details (if necessary).

7. Read the Word. Dreams from God will never contradict His written Word. Also, an important key to understanding God’s language in dreams is to do a search in the Bible.

8. Seek wise counsel. Some dreams can have multiple layers of interpretation. Seek out those who can give you godly wisdom. We were made to be the body of Christ, and we must never think that we can do it all alone.

9. Remember the point of all dreams + visions. Questions are meant to woo us. They are intended to awaken a desire within us so that it gallivants us into pursuing answers… a search that will lead us deeper in to the heart of God, the answer of all answers. God uses dreams to get our attention when nothing else can. He slips past our natural defenses + mindsets, speaking to us in our dreams so we awake and begin to awaken to His love.

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We pray that in learning to hear His voice, you will fall deeper in love with the Author of romance.

And! In celebration of this Valentine’s weekend, we are giving a 20% discount on the Dream Journal — we only have a couple of sales a year, so this would be your chance to get that dream journal into your hands! Simply use code BEMYVALENTINE by Monday, February 15th. Get the Dream Journal here.

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Remain in Him

We are in a season where, more than ever before, the children of God must remain in Him.

In times where the darkness is getting darker, the children of light are called to shine brighter. We need to align our hearts to His, so we see ourselves + our world through His eyes, so that we can understand the times and know WHAT to do and WHEN to do it.

This is so important for the world needs the sons & daughters of God to rise up. For all creation waits in eager expectation for the children of God to be revealed (Romans 8).

But also? It’s what we really need for ourselves. Jesus spoke of it long ago, that because of the increase of wickedness, the love of many will grow cold (Matthew 24). Now, more than ever before, we need to guard the lamps of our hearts to make sure that our lights don’t get snuffed out by the days that are to come.

How do we protect our hearts? By remaining in Him.

If you’re anything like me, you’d be asking, “Lord I know you want me to remain in You and I want it too. So… what does it look like, y’know, practically?”  The Lord has taught me many things through the life of Mary, sister of Lazarus, and today I’m excited to get to share a little bit of that with you.

Come, Holy Spirit, and breathe fresh life on these words right now. Draw our hearts and bind it to Yours.

1. Quick Obedience

“The Teacher is here,” Martha said, “and is asking for you.” When Mary heard this, she got up quickly and went to Him… When the Jews who had been with Mary noticed how quickly she got up and went out, they followed her. — John 11

Mary’s quick obedience to Jesus inspired others to follow after Him.

God seeks out those who worship in spirit and truth (John 4), people follow those who follow hard after Him (John 11). We don’t have to strive for a calling, ministry, or even encounters with God. When our hearts are postured in continual worship so that we are quick to respond to Him, all of these will be added to us.

A.W. Tozer puts it like this: I am of the opinion that we should not be concerned about working for God until we have learned the meaning and the delight of worshiping Him.

Be quick to obey, even if you don’t fully understand or when it costs you to do so. There are moments we are called to step out in faith — it is impossible to please God without faith. There are times we are called to an obedience that costs us our reputation, dignity, security. But God will always restore to us many-fold what we’ve given for Him, and as we seek His Kingdom first He will add everything to us.

It is time to stop talking about it, rationalizing, and asking question after question. Now is the time to take a stand: Are you for Him or against Him? Those who aren’t for Him are against Him. Will you choose to be quick to obey His voice? To go when He says “Go”, and to stop when He says “Stop”. No more looking back. This is the hour for the mature sons of God to arise, and they are the faithful ones marked by instant obedience to their King.

2. Wholehearted Devotion

Then Mary took about a pint of pure nard, an expensive perfume; she poured it on Jesus’ feet and wiped his feet with her hair. And the house was filled with the fragrance of the perfume. — John 12

The Lord is searching throughout the earth for those whose hearts are fully devoted to Him… the ones who are fully His in spirit, soul, and body.

Holy Spirit will always lovingly bring conviction where there are areas of our lives that aren’t yet given to Him. You know — that little bad habit we don’t want to kick, that person we cannot forgive, that indulgence we’re unable to give up. He wants to take it all and gently breathe new life so that every part of us shines through with the Light + Life of heaven.

He wants wholeheartedness. And He wants it for our good.

Can we decide from today that we will give Him our whole life, even if it costs us? Mary poured out the most precious, costly thing she had at the feet of Jesus, and it moved Him so much He promised that her story would be shared wherever the gospel is preached. And so it has.

3. Deep Intimacy

When Jesus saw Mary weeping, he was deeply moved in spirit and troubled. — John 11

There is a place available to all children of God. A place of such closeness to the heart of God that words become redundant. That place where we breathe His name, and feel His breath on us in that very next moment. A place of face-touching-face closeness that we don’t have to speak words to know that He’s heard our hearts. A place where we come to the throne of God and can pray like Jesus did, “Father, I know You hear me” and know with unshakable confidence that He has heard and it is done.

Martha evoked a theological response from Jesus. Mary moved His heart.

Martha got into a discussion. Mary stirred Him to action.

The difference? Martha knew His acts (abilities) , Mary knew His ways (heart).

And the Lord is still searching for those who, like Mary, are after His heart (person) not His hand (power).

He desires oneness with His beloved, and will do everything to bring us to that place of intimate knowing with Him. To fully know Him + to be fully known, that’s the pinnacle of all human design. Will you ask Him today to draw you closer?

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Idream of Eden. We were made for the Garden and the full pleasure of paradise. We got separated at Eden and we spend our whole lives searching for a way back into that secret paradise. All of life's pursuit + pain + questioning can be traced back to man's search for home. Our deepest instincts tell us that we are not home outside of this reality, and our souls will never stop searching until we return. Only there will we find rest and our true being. There, we begin to dream again the dreams that have laid asleep in our hearts all along.

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