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Stop Following The Godly Woman

Sometimes I meet some sweet women who say, “I follow you so I know you’re an inspiration.” If you know me, you know I’d choke on my tea a little.

I wish I could find the tallest place in the world + shout this at the top of my lungs: Stop following the godly man or woman.

I feel like this can’t ever be said enough. The godly man/woman of God? They’re man, not God. It may sound like a bit of an overstatement, but the truth is we are often distracted the most by those who inspire us.

We can be distracted by those who are the most like God, if we do not see through them to see God.

Can we have some straight talk today? Get close to a man or woman of God and we will almost certainly be disappointed + hurt.

He had no beauty or majesty to attract us to him, nothing in his appearance that we should desire him.

Isaiah 53

Jesus was unremarkable to those who met Him, and He was the King of Heaven. He could’ve come to earth as a super handsome, statuesque, eloquent alpha male — the Messiah all of Israel was waiting for. Instead He made himself into a humble, nondescript Jewish man.

In short, Jesus was a huge disappointment to those who had waited hundreds of years for their messiah. He resisted when the Jews wanted to make Him king. He said offensive things that turned people away. He chose to be a carpenter’s son + a questionable virgin birth, and that stumbled some people who would never accept someone with that heritage as their Messiah.

Jesus knew that a shiny surface would distract people from seeing the deeper treasure within. He stepped away from the limelight so that others could see the true Light.

And all servants of God are called to walk in His footsteps.

We are asked to be a friend of the Bridegroom, not a competitor. We are bid to remember that we are weak, broken, imperfect vessels. That the anointing doesn’t fall on the deserving, but on the humble servants that acknowledge their need of a Savior.

We are called to be real, vulnerable, open books in which the world can read about the grace + goodness of God. We must be honest about our weaknesses so that our lives boast about His grace. We are invited to be real about where we’re at + our mistakes so that His goodness in our mess shines through.

And because of that, sometimes? We hurt + disappoint others… and that’s good.

Human beings run toward whatever we’ve got our eyes fixed on, and sometimes God needs to trip us up to help us realize that we lost sight of the Person because we’d been so fixated on the reflection. And it’s a good day when we discern clearly that we’d been chasing after His likeness, not Himself. Because an image, however precise, will never be as dynamic as the real thing.

So if we want freedom, we mustn’t look to those who are closer to God than we are. When we look at anyone, it must be Him we see. We can learn whatever we can from others. Be inspired by them. But ultimately, we must receive the bread directly from Him.

If we want to run and not stumble, we must stop staring after the people who have gone before us. Start running our own race.

Because putting them on a pedestal limits us, God, and them. Our growth will only go as far as they’ve gone. We’ll only open up to the extent that God has been demonstrated in their lives. And they’re not allowed to fall because their failures cause us to stumble.

We’re all works in progress, and what we see on the surface cannot define us + we cannot let it define how we judge someone else. Because the things we see are just a really small fraction. Real lives are far more messy + far more beautiful, and we need to give ourselves, God, and others to space to fall and learn and soar.

So Holy Spirit, would You keep our eyes looking upward and less downward + sideways + inward.

Give us discernment + wisdom in the sources we learn from. To know when to stop reading How-to’s and Must-do’s that get us all stressed out because we’re trying so hard to fit into a mold of success that wasn’t scripted for us.

And friends, if my words cause you daily to look at me instead of pointing you to God? Hit unfollow. Then go and do the same to everything else in your life that has the same effect on you. You were made for freedom, so straight up go live free.

  • NaemiaMarch 14, 2016 - 5:53 pm

    Yes yes! Heh! I need this!ReplyCancel

  • SheriMarch 14, 2016 - 5:54 pm

    I like this.. I’ve been thinking about this lately. Thank you for ringing this freedom bell!!ReplyCancel

  • Suzanne RudgeMarch 14, 2016 - 10:27 pm

    I do agree that one should not worship a human being instead of our Lord, but what is wrong with receiving inspiration from another? There are so many people who inspire each day and I love to learn from them, but they do not replace God in my life, but rather enhance the relationship we have.ReplyCancel

  • Nina @ Hugs and LattesMarch 14, 2016 - 10:28 pm

    I think it’s easier to follow a “reflection” of Christ because it seems more tangible to us. But that is what it is – a reflection. Christ is more tangible to us than any human, but we can’t feel Him/see Him because we are too distracted. Thank you for a great post!ReplyCancel

  • Traci@tracesoffaithMarch 14, 2016 - 10:55 pm

    I see your point. I think those of us who are leaders carry a responsibility here too. If we’re transparent about how human we are but constantly point to how God is helping us to be more like Christ, we should be a help, not a hindrance. Very thought provoking words here. Thank you.ReplyCancel

  • CeilMarch 14, 2016 - 11:56 pm

    Hi Samantha! I think it’s always a good idea to do a little ‘gut check’ and see where we are. Am I in line with what the Lord is asking of me? Is my allegiance to Him to a human being?
    It’s one thing to encourage and support, but a another to take in all the glory meant for the Lord. This was a very good subject for a post!
    So nice to meet you 🙂

  • Mikki JoMarch 15, 2016 - 1:27 am

    I am inspired and encouraged by others. If we have confidence in someone we do need to be aware they are not perfect and we all make mistakes. Let our faith rest in Jesus and always be in prayer for one another. We all fail at one time or another.ReplyCancel

  • andreaMarch 15, 2016 - 2:41 am

    we should be looking up to God first!ReplyCancel

  • LoriMarch 15, 2016 - 5:06 am

    Thank you! I just heard a sermon by a friend of mine who spoke on this. We need to keep our eyes on Jesus. Thank you for sharing ReplyCancel

  • angieMarch 15, 2016 - 6:43 am

    Point taken, thank you for sharing your point of view and expressing it in such a manner. I can see how this would make those individuals that are followed be like heros and that is not always good for either those following or the person being followed. I will always remember we do not follow anyone or anything but our Lord and the pressure on the person followed would be nearly a punishment I am sureReplyCancel

  • LeslieMarch 15, 2016 - 7:20 am

    This is exactly what I needed after today!ReplyCancel

  • AlondaMarch 15, 2016 - 8:14 am

    It’s great to have inspiration, but should would look to those who inspire us before we look to Christ? Never! He is the ultimate example! That being said it’s still good to be encouraged and in some instances even lead by Spirit filled people. That’s the job of Pastors, Apostles, Prophets, and Teachers in the body of Christ.ReplyCancel

  • Michelle@Simplicity SpeakingMarch 15, 2016 - 9:13 am

    Amen and amen. Thank you for this word. I always pray too that if anyone sees anything good in me or something I say or do, that they see that it is straight up Jesus. There is nothing good about Michelle apart from Him.ReplyCancel

  • Jacqui OdellMarch 15, 2016 - 9:48 am

    What a great post! You have a good point and I have been thinking about this a lot myself lately!ReplyCancel

  • Kayla HousleyMarch 15, 2016 - 2:17 pm

    Great post! I love your point. I try to remain focused on God, but sometimes we do get caught up worshiping others.ReplyCancel

  • Clare SpeerMarch 15, 2016 - 6:32 pm

    Yes, comparison to others is such a thief of joy – I have been encouraged to press in lately and keep my eyes fixed on Jesus …. and thank you for this wonderful word and pressing on to do just that!ReplyCancel

  • Lisa MorrisMarch 16, 2016 - 7:33 am

    I really enjoyed this post! You are so right we need to stop following “godly” men or women! I have been guilty in the past! My first time to visit your blog! I have enjoyed my visit! God Bless!ReplyCancel

  • AnonymousMarch 17, 2016 - 4:26 am

    “The godly man/woman of God? They’re man, not God. It may sound like a bit of an overstatement, but the truth is we are often distracted the most by those who inspire us.”

    Yes…these godly women and men should point us to Christ, not be our christ.:) Perfect!ReplyCancel

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